Who do you think you are?

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about identity. You see, for many years when people asked me what I did, I told them I was “a singer.” I didn’t just tell them, I sing; I had to say, I am a singer. For me, being a singer was who I was – not just what I did. I wanted to feel big. I wanted to feel important. Being a singer was my identity.

And then God called me away from singing. No more band, no more studio work, no more writing songs, worship leading – nothing. It was a test.

 Do you trust me, Sherri?

But God, this is who I am!

No. This is what you do. This is not your “who.”

And with that, the journey of finding my true identity began.

Although it was my choice to obey God and leave my singing behind, I began licking deep wounds and seeking all the sympathy I could find. I’ll never forget sitting on my friends purple couch crying my eyes out, telling her I felt like I was dying. Truth is, I was. I was dying to self. I was dying to all of the aspirations of being “great” in the worlds eyes. I was dying to my will, my desires and many, many other things.

            But mostly, I was dying to my false identity.

Why did God so desperately want me to really get who I was? Because I wasn’t free. And I wasn’t very happy. Although I was a Christ follower, the truth was, I was operating out of a false identity and as a result, everything I did: how I behaved, thought, acted and reacted, all stemmed out of it. I didn’t get how much I was loved by God. I didn’t get what being His child really meant for me. And so, all of the singing and performing in the world could never satisfy me.

See, it’s not that telling people that I was “a singer” was wrong in and of itself. That wasn’t the problem.

It’s when it turned into the primary identity that I operated out of that it became unhealthy.

After a few years in the “desert” with God diligently and proactively learning about who He was so that I could then learn about who I was, I began to better understand my true identity. And even better than that, own it.

So, who do I think I am now? At the core, I am simply Sherri Bennett, daughter of God, made in the image of my Father and a big-time “Daddy’s girl.” I am also a singer (yes, God brought that back again), a writer, a mother, a wife. But now, I operate out of the core identity on which all of these other things that I do, are built on. And I am more fulfilled and happier than I ever was in my career before.

I’m curious. Who do you think YOU are? What identity do you honestly, typically operate out of on a regular basis? Mom? Boss? Boyfriend/girlfriend? Pastor? Musician? How do you think that is affecting your life? Or, what does operating out of your identity mean to you or do you even think it’s important? And by the way, if you are someone who knows me personally, there’s no need to put any identification in your responses such as your name or title, e.g., “your sister.” This way others will not know who you are. I want to respect complete anonymity in this blog so that all will feel safe to be completely honest.

I look forward to hearing your thoughts!

9 thoughts on “Who do you think you are?

  1. Anonymous

    Thank you Sherri for causing me to stop and reflect upon (in my own life) the faith-race challenges you’ve encountered in your journey… to the Promised Land. I enjoyed your previous post ‘Believing God’ as well. I trust your gift of writing will be a blessing to many.

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  2. Anonymous

    Our journey(s) through life has brought us all many identities such as daughter/son, sister/brother, auntie/uncle, mother/father, grandparent and so on…..I beleive that is only a small fraction of who we are as we are also part of God and God is of many identities too……As of:: Our Father,
    Our Creator, Our Teacher. He is Faith, Love, Forgiveness and on and on and on……..
    So, who am I ?
    Well, I am a buisness professional, a singer, buisness owner, as well as, a mother, a teacher, a sister, a friend, a wife…………Does that define me of who I am? Or is it what I do through each and every identify that really identifies Who I am?
    I want to share a prayer that I want to define me of who I am and that is God.

    LORD, MAKE ME A CHANNEL OF THY PEACE-THAT WHERE THERE IS HATRED, I MAY BRING LOVE – THAT WHERE THERE IS WRONG, I MAY BRING THE SPIRIT OF FORGIVENESS- THAT WHERE THERE IS DISCORD, I MAY BRING HARMONY- THAT WHERE THERE IS ERROR, I MAY BRING TRUTH- THAT WHERE THERE IS DOUBT, I MAY BRING FAITH- THAT WHERE THERE IS DESPAIR, I MAY BRING HOPE- THAT WHERE THERE ARE SHADOWS, I MAY BRING LIGHT- THAT WHERE THERE IS SADNESS, I MAY BRING JOY.
    “LORD, GRANT THAT I MAY SEEK TO COMFORT RATHER THAN TO BE COMFORTED- TO UNDERSTAND THAN TO BE UNDERSTOOD- TO LOVE, THAN TO BE LOVED.
    FOR IT IS BY SELF-FORGETTING THAT ONE FINDS. IT IS BY FORGIVING THAT ONE IS FORGIVEN. IT IS BY DYING THAT ONE AWAKENS TO ETERNAL LIFE.. AMEN.”

    That is who I want to be. Love Ya! xo

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  3. Anonymous

    I just wanted to add to the post I made above because I didn’t express what I was really meaning to express.
    I really love that prayer above.
    Every day I read that prayer as a part of my recovery.
    For most of my life I didn’t know really who I was and what my meaning in this life was for. I never had a relationship with God growing up and only called on him when I was so lost and felt defeted and wanted to just give up.
    I carried alot of shame and resentment for most of my life and never knew or liked who I thought I was. I never really knew who I was.
    I know now that through my journey and everything I have been through in life was meant to be and that God was always there with me.
    He was blessing me with some very special gifts to work with, so when I was ready to have and build my relationship with him, I was then ready to do his will “through me” ( “as” mother, sister, wife, friend, through my profession, through every aspect of me .)
    And then, I would finally get the answers that I was so desperatly seeking……
    Who am I and what is my purpose in life?
    I no longer feel sorry for myself ( well, I try not to. ) and carry the weight of shame, resentment, hatred, saddness, and the confusion I carried for so long.. Don’t get me wrong, I am still human and I still get a little teary eyed when I re-live the journey I never understood.
    I now have so much more clairety, as God really talks to me now and has given me a mission on my second part of life with him and I have to say it is really beautiful…………
    I am of God….That is what he tells me.
    My purpose in life is to impliment and to be as that prayer above….. And then, I am ready to carry his message and it will be so powerful !!!
    I am the work of God.. That is who I am first and forthmost and every other aspect, ( identities ) is his messenger.

    Love You Sherry!!! xo

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    1. sherribennettblog Post author

      Great response. One line especially leaped off the page at me: I no longer feel sorry for myself. Gosh, if that’s not a weapon the enemy uses, I don’t know what is! Lately, I have been especially mindful of how sorry I can feel for myself. YUK. Thanks for that wonderful reminder – there is such freedom when life is not all about us!!

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  4. Anonymous

    God is the one who has reveiled my biggest blockage through life, which was and still something I struggle with, “that is self pitty”. I am most definently still in the hands of God and trying to really listen to his message. I feel so much relief knowing my struggles and hardships were not for my self pitty, but rather my stepping stones and knowledge I am to pass on and share with another, and as I grow with God I am to impliment that prayer into everything I am. That is Gods plans for me. As I struggle with my fiances battle with cancer, I pray constantly for Gods stregnth and guidance to not battle with the lessons learned/learning. Self pitty is a tuff one…….

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    1. sherribennettblog Post author

      I love that – “stepping stones and knowledge I am to pass on and share with another.” And you are even doing that here! I’ll be praying for you and your fiance.

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